Great Dating Tips For Shy Guys

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By Tim Blackstone

Advice And Dating Tips For Shy Guys

Men are not always so good at asking for advice on dating so these dating tips for shy guys are to help you build your confidence. It is part of the macho makeup of a man that they don't want to seek advice and see asking for dating help as a sign of weakness. Guys, get over it. None of us knows everything about dates and dating and women are a mystery to many of us.

If you allow your macho instincts to get in the way of seeking advice then you are the one who loses out. If you are unfamiliar with dating then getting some dating tips BEFORE you go on your first dates is likely to give you more confidence and make you a more interesting date for the girl you are meeting.

Men usually don't talk about these kinds of issues when they are together with their male friends. The truth of the matter is that even if they did they would get a lot of hopeless answers because in general, men do not understand women. So any solutions that the majority of men think is right, are probably wrong. If you want some tips on dating ask a woman.

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Be Cautious Of Online Dating Tips

You can find a lot of information of the internet. You will find hundreds of websites that talk about dating and offer tips on managing relationships and a lot of the information is free but like so many other things on the internet you will become confused by all the different suggestions and some of the dating tips are frankly rubbish.

You might do a lot better to buy just one good dating advice book, dating tips ebook or a guide to dating either on CD or downloadable and study what they have to say about dating. They have taken the trouble to research and write the book so if you follow the dating advice and dating advice they give you should feel a lot more confident about yourself and more knowledgeable about the dating process.

Dating Tips On Understanding Women And Womens Views On Dating

If you have sisters, girls you are close friends with or girls you work with try asking them for some dating tips for shy guys.It is difficult for a guy, especially a shy guy as they may tease you a little about you and your dating prospects but they will invariably want to help. You will gain some helpful advice along with the jokes and this will also help you to become more comfortable chatting to women about yourself and your feelings. It will show you another side to dating and give you some insight into relationships with the opposite sex. It will help you understand that dating should be fun and enjoyable for both people involved.

The reason you should ask girls for their opinion is simple. They are women and they are already experts on the subject of men, dating and what women want from a man. They will tell you what a woman wants and expects from a date and you will also learn all about the things women hate when they go on dates. They can tell you how a woman reacts to various things a man might think are the right things to do on a date such as giving roses, chocolates and even teddy bears.

Women do not think the same as men so you have to take this advice as guidance to help you understand what is expected of you rather than as rules for dating. While one woman may like chocolates another may prefer something else like gummies or roses. Some might prefer not to feel pressured by getting gifts on a first date. What you should learn is that you need to find out about your date and the things she likes and dislikes. She will be impressed if you take the trouble to listen and find out what she wants.

Dating should be fun. You should have an enjoyable experience with this person, and the girl should enjoy being with you too. Keep the conversation light as you don't want to be going on a date with your serious head on. Don't go spouting off about the political situation in Bolivia or anywhere else, unless, you discover the girl you are dating is fascinated with what is going on there which could happen but is unlikely. Keep the conversation light and friendly and just have a good time.

Dating for shy guys is not an easy experience but if you can make the date comfortable and easy for your date it is likely to be a comfortable and enjoyable date for you too.

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Dating Tips For Shy Guys - What To Say On A Date

You should talk about the things that are interesting to you but most importantly you should listen to your date and what she is saying. Yes of course you may feel a little shy and nervous about making a fool of yourself but that is perfectly natural but being relaxed and comfortable is half the battle. Talk about anything she mentions in her conversation. Ask her what she thinks about things related to what she mentions. Ask her about the movies she likes and what she likes to do at the weekend. Ask her what music she likes to listen to and what she hopes to achieve in the future. Share your thoughts and experiences but avoid going into too much detail about the subjects you are passionate about unless she seems to have an interest in those subjects as well.

Don't just ask a question, listen to the answer and develop the line of thought. So, if she mentions a film she enjoyed you might mention another film by the same director or another film the star of that film was in. Don't just bang on with a list of questions and as soon as she has answered one move on to the next question. This isn't a quiz game. Respond to her answers and discus aspects of them and how they might relate to you. Ask further questions about the subject but don't go too deep into it.

Conversation is a two way street. Make sure you allow your date the time to respond to what you say too. Remeber that while dating for shy guys can be a challenge it can also be true for women. She may be feeling shy and nervous too so help to make her feel relaxed and comfortable with you by keeping the conversation light and keep it around some of the things she seems interested in.

Dating is not about scoring points and proving you are the cleverest, richest or even the best man in the world. It is about demonstrating that you could make this girl happy and improve her life in all sorts of ways just by spending time with you. You want her to feel good when she is with you.

There is an assumption made by most men, that when you go on a date you have to impress the lady. Yes, you do but you have already got that first date and that is a huge achievement. She is obviously interested enough to meet with you and spend some time with you. What you MUST try not to do is to lose her interest.

Never, ever, start arguing and trying to prove her wrong on any views she holds. Discus things if she wants to but keep it light and do not try to convince her she is wrong. It could be that she is but proving her wrong will not get you a second date. You may win the argument but if she never wants to see you again that is hardly a victory. Just agree to disagree and move on to a different subject. She may respect you all the more for that.

How To Get A Date

Before you can enjoy dating you first need to get a date and shy guys find that difficult to do. Your best option might be to try dating on the internet using the many websites available online. These websites give you the chance to introduce yourself to single women in your area who may be interested and want to know more about you and even meet you on a date.

We all have something to offer if we can meet the right person who can appreciate what we have to offer. You are no different and for the right person you can make the magic happen. There is someone out there who is a perfect partner for us all and if they are the one, you will be right for her too. Be positive about yourself and anything is possible.

Remember it is just a date. Dating for shy guys is extra difficult because men are expected to be confident about themselves. The truth is that we all get nervous sometimes but a date is an opportunity to show what you have to offer. It's a chance to find out if you have things in common and if that chemistry is there so use the opportunity to discus lots of different aspects of life to see where your interests are shared. Dating can be difficult for shy guys but by understanding how to behave and what things to talk about you will be better prepared and the easier it will be to enjoy your date and that will give you greater confidence in yourself.

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SethMemVegas profile image

SethMemVegas 22 months ago

Extremely rich in content, makes my hub look bad haha,

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Tim Blackstone Hub Author 22 months ago

Hi Seth, thanks for that. I hope it helps to inspire you to great things.

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